As human beings we all have a need to get things off our chests or get things outta our heads.
We need to dump the overwhelming crazy thoughts which dance energetically and constantly in our heads. Having a little colourful party of their own.
But do we ever stop to think about where, or to whom we are transferring all that negativity energy when we release it?
Are we expelling it into the fresh clear air of our homes? Into the hearts of our loved ones?
Does it get stuck there?
Lingering thick and heavy.
Maybe you don’t even notice it as negativity. Surely it is just chatter?
A normal practice to seek peace?
Yet in all honestly, it is often mindless, incessant and relentless noise. The thoughts that swirl so irratically round and round in our own heads transported onto another in our own desperation to be free of them.
A need to clear them and start the day afresh.
You may not even notice this occurrence. These thoughts fight dirty to get out of you. Powerful in their strength and potential destruction.
But you are not asking your partner to take them on. You just need to release them right?
It stand to reason though that of course he/she will be absorbing them and the essence of their vibration. Your partner/work-mate/house-mate/best-friend may also likely be doing the same to you. But all that is happening is that 2 people are firing passionate emotive dialogue about the air, but there is no real human or soul connection.
No sharing. Just dumping onto one another.
There must be a better way to get the space in your head free and clear?
The first step is perhaps to ackowledge and recognise this phenonmeonon in your own life.
And we all do it.
Try a little experiment – When you wake up notice your thoughts and the conversation going on internally.
“Argh, I didnt sleep well at all. I am soooooo tired.”
“My head hurts, Today is going to be tough.”
“What am I am going to make for lunch – we have no food in.”
“Why did no-one wash up?”
Etc. Etc. Etc
Now be aware of what you say out loud. What you put out into the energy field of your (shared) environment.
Probably exactly the same sentences which are then also mirrored back at you from your partner?
A desperate need for relief.
Wouldnt it be sweet if we had a way to rid ourselves of this overwhelm and start the day feeling lighter? A way to shed the inevitable jumble and swirl of thoughts without impacting the vibration and headspace of our loved ones too? If when we did come together to talk, it could come from a place of love, connection and sharing instead?
I was listenning to a podcast on the amazing http://www.thewellnesswonderland.com recently which really got me thinking about this topic and solutions to the issue.
I learnt a lot. Basically we don’t choose to start the day with fear. But it is often there disguised as anxiety, fatigue or stress. We need an outlet to let the negativity float away so that we can instead begin the shiny new day from a place of optimism and wonder.
The interviewee on the podcast was the lovely Jenny Sansouci and her answer to creating a beautiful day from the get-go is to journal her thoughts as soon as she wakes up. She settles herself in a comfy, cozy space and just writes.
Free-flowing. No structure or thought.
Just Brain Dumping onto the page.
Get it out…. Let it go.
She finds that her first few pages are typically quite negative, but by the time she is naturally spent, her words have taken on a much higher energy vibration and she feels brighter and better.
Jenny gives herself a time limit and this could literally be 5-10 minutes. The idea is that you just start writing. About anything. Your dreams, your worries, your thoughts, your hopes, or even a to-do list. Just get it our of your headspace in a private way.
The real solution is making sure your BRAIN DUMP IS PRIVATE.
Inpacting and affecting no-one. Especially your nearest and dearest. Just a soothing ritual to heal and help yourself.
She details how she almost always naturally ends on a high and likes to gives thanks and gratitude in her final paragraphs.
Coming at the day from an angle of appreciation.
A complete turnaround in a short space of time.
I haven’t actually yet tried this yet myself but I love the idea and am putting it on ‘my list’.
I think it is bound to make for kinder communication and more loving connections. It just gives you the perspective to choose what you decide to discuss out-loud. And it may in fact end up being the very same issues, but you will be coming from a more objective and calmer place.
A total attitude shift creating HOW YOU WANT TO FEEL.
Similarly, an Evening Brain Dump can also be a great thing. Jenny ends her day with engaging chats with her roomy before bed. All cozy-ed up on the sofa together with a mug of tea.
Listenning. Sharing. Besties.
The verbal release this time preparing you for a blissful night ahead where sleep comes dreamily easy.
I Would love to hear your thoughts on this as always. Are you prepared to try a Morning journaling ritual for a month and see what happens?